Feeling girly

I understand how there are two sides to every story but I've always been of the mindset that if they don't do it to you, you don't have a real reason to be unkind, rude, disrespectful, mean or nonchalant to the other person slash people who side with the other person. I have just always believed that no one knows the truth you live in so they can't judge based on what one person describes. It's not fair to the whole situation, regardless of what it is. I sent an email to some friends, some who are my girlfriends and some who are Joe's friends before they were ever mine although I consider them mine as well. I just have this feeling in my gut that they won't respond to me because they are his friends first. Which I get but at the same time, treat me separately than his other half and it will still be ok. Yes, we have some problems to work out which we are doing but that doesn't mean you have to ignore me. I think I'm being too sensitive which is a first. Kind of good, kind of bad. Good because it means I have real emotions, bad because I don't like feeling them